Lesson learnt..

It has been a very long time since Kuch Kuch Hota Hai, which is i cant stop crying after watch that movie. Then comes out, Titanic. That is the last time i (as i remember) i cry and cry..just because of the movie. And tonight, i watched a movie; Marley and Me. Yes, i cried (again). I don't know whether it is because i am too sensitive or that movie so good and had passed the lesson to me in their own way.

Marley and Me, it is a story about a young couple that has learn important life lessons from their energetic and adorable dog named Marley. They bought Marley at a clearance sales pet (they called it "clearance sales puppy) and they had so many obstacles to train Marley. However, Marley had taught them to be patient, love each other since it  is very energetic dog. He loves chewed things-books, pillow, sofa and hates storm.
This dog grew together with the family with 2 sons and a daughter, from Boca to Phildaphia (i hope i spelt it right), from winter to summer. Then one day, Marley get sick and then cannot be save. John (the husband) has to chose whether give the injection or let Marley to be suffer. He chose injection and that is the end of the story. It is a sad ending but they learnt a lot from Marley...

Well, it just a story. Dog always be a good friend to a man, amd cat too. I cant have a dog as my pet but i never treat them bad (unless they start it...hehehe). Hey, they also created by God. and one more, i love cat so much. You know what, after watched this movie, i think it is important for us to learn how to appreciate our life, treat others nicely and be patient with all the obstacles we face in our life. Allah never promise that this life will be easy, right.

Oh yes, i love this statement: appreciate your life. Well, i think i worked hard for family, i had sacrifices a lot, include my happy time with family (especially my kids), lately in my mind always..work..work..work..and work. Well, it is not just about me, but also about my family but i know and i trust that me also deserve the best.

Here is the deal: I'm gonna get a very simple and nice necklace for myself...and with a sweet and girlish design... I'm gonna work hard to get it..and oh ya..i'm gonna change my earing with a new one..gold with a diamond or maybe with a white gold.

Yes, i decided this is my treat for my hardwork and lost time...for this month??

Am i deserve this???

Our new family member

13 Feb 2010 will be among the most happy day to the whole family. The day we shared the happiness and celebrate our new family member. Well..well...it's 11am and I was stacked in the traffic jam, the whole way from KL to Temerloh. Kids getting bored and they starts 'create' their own activities. I'm so sleepy, plus i'm not feeling so well. It's really a very hot day, we are so tired and hungry (luckily i brought food from home, so for our kids side, they are safe !!). In my mind, i really really think about ABC and something cold like 100plus isotonic drink. Then my family keep calling me asking where are we..oh my..oh..oh

I knew my sister already in the labour room since 5am on that day but the whole family dont know what is going on. Finally, she sms me and told me the she had safely delivered a cute and chubby and healthy and sweet baby boy. He is 3.34kg (wow). Name? Oh, she still not decided yet but i'm sure it will be a long and famous name (i know u, my sis).

I was so happy..i dont know why. Just happy because i got one more nephew and that means, more people call me 'mommy' (my kids called me mama, only nephews calls me mommy-some people said it's weird and confused the kids, but dont worry, for us, no matter who is the mom, they are our kids and they know who is their mom..unique right??).

He is so 'beautiful' and chubby. I fell in love with him at my first sight. Oh my God, he looks at me when i called him " look at my baby, mommy was here". Well friends, I got a day to take care of him. On the first night at home, he keeps crying but the next day, he is a very good boy (that's my boy)

Well, let's see the pictures taken at the hospital and welcome to the family, son.

 

cool baby...stay cool..

 

at this moment, i'm telling him to be a good boy

 

my sister with her baby...congrats sis

 

mommy also want to interframe..sorry eh..

Oh ya, while waiting my turn to visit my sister and her newborn, i had taken some pictures of me and family at the lobby. Kids below 12th years are not allowed to enter the ward, regarding to H1N1 cases, so me also dont want to take a risk. Here is some pics snapped while waiting. hahaha

 
 

Zara...tired and very unhappy..sleepy

 

Muqri..he telling me that his sister ran to the other entrance.." mama..looks..adik go there"

 

no comment..seems like this is 'wrong position" hahahaha

 

aahhh...finally i got this cool drink-zara and his fav. drink-MILO

 

sleep baby sleep...

Tentang Seseorang...

 Aku lari ke hutan, kemudian menyanyiku
 Aku lari ke pantai, kemudian teriakku
 Sepi... Sepi dan sendiri aku benci.
 Aku ingin bingar. Aku mau di pasar.
 
 Bosan aku dengan penat,
 dan enyah saja kau, pekat!
 
 Seperti berjelaga jika aku sendiri
 Pecahkan saja gelasnya biar ramai
 Biar mengaduh sampai gaduh
 
 Ahh.. ada malaikat menyulam jaring laba-laba belang
 di tembok keraton putih
 Kenapa tak goyangkan saja loncengnya?
 Biar terderah,
 atau... 

aku harus lari ke hutan belok ke pantai?

5 Signs You're Headed Toward a Breakup

Hi all, this morning, before start my busy day, i found this very interesting article from Yahoo website. So i think, i wanna share this with you girls. For those who having relationship problems, maybe this can be a guideline.

Whatever it is, remember, yes, it's true life is short, it's true all of us want to be happy but think about the quality of life, it is more important. The more challenges you face in your life, the more you appreciate yourself. Sometimes we have to be selfish, and think about ourselves. Whatever it is, think positive.

End up of something is always a first step for a new things !! Enjoy this ya !!

Have you ever found yourself in a relationship where the frustration level and the number of times you butt heads with each other seems to increase by the second? You say blue, she says red, and the fights just seem to be going in circles.

If the answer is yes, then you may be at what I call "the breakup point." Here are five signs that your relationship may be past the point of fixing. Whether you are living together, married, or just dating, these breakup signs are usually loud and clear.

1. You stop relationship-building behaviors. In the honeymoon stage of a relationship, which we all know is the first 90 days of pure bliss, you are learning about each other and making efforts to create romantic moods and nice evenings. When you're in that stage, you are really working at building your relationship. Then, at some point, you start to butt heads with each other. Critical relationship elements deteriorate. Maybe you stop kissing each other goodbye or stop texting each other during the day. Instead of adding things to the relationship, you start to resent each other like two five-year-olds who stop sharing their crayons. This is a breakup point.

2. You don't understand each other anymore. The fighting escalates to a place where you no longer feel like you're understood by your partner. Physical intimacy stops, communication stops, and you are living like roommates. You're at the point in the relationship where you are trying to understand each other, but you get so frustrated because you feel like you just don't understand each other anymore. This is a breakup point.

3. You start punishing each other. When you get to the point of no longer understanding each other, what happens is that you end up just kind of coexisting in the new dynamic. Resentment builds and you get in your head too much. You are no longer about feelings, and you start punishing each other. "Well, he hasn't done this for me, so I'm not going to do this for him" are the kind of thoughts that take root. The longer you stay in that dynamic and the further away you get from the dynamic you had during the early part of the relationship, the less likely it is that you'll ever get it back (and, after a point, you won't). You have hit the breakup point.

4. You fight less. When you get to the breakup point, you actually fight less with your partner. You fight less because in your mind and heart you start detaching yourself from the other person, and you don't care as much anymore. You have already made a determination that they don't understand you, that they will never understand you, and that the relationship just won't work out. The minute you get into a fight, you just walk away from it. That is a sure sign that you are at the breakup point.

 5. You've taken the time to think it through. When you think you might have hit that breakup point, you must tell the person that you're disconnecting from them. You need to be honest and raw. If you don't think the relationship is going to work, or you know you've already disconnected based on how things have been going, then you might want to consider walking away for a week. When you're in the thick of things, they never seem to be able to work out.

So take a break. Spend a week without your partner. Take the week to ask yourself some questions. Go visit some friends or family. Really think about what life would be like without that person. How would you feel? Then, go back and either take a stand for the relationship or break up.

Whichever decision you make, you need to be honest with yourself. Life is too short! There are a lot of wonderful, amazing people out there ready to meet you.

The Power of HUGGING

I got this article from facebook...i think this is very cool article..thanks facebook...enjoy!!

It has been proved that showing affection strengthens growth and positive development in people. We all need physical contact to feel good, and one of the most important ways of physical contact between two people is hugging. Who does not need cuddles in this society that is becoming ever colder, more competitive, that compels us to be more individualistic, more personal-goal oriented...?  
When we hug, we receive an energy feedback. We bring life to our senses and reaffirm the trust in our senses. Sometimes we CANNOT find the right words to express how we feel, and then hugs are the best way to say it. We need four hugs a day to survive, eight to preserve ourselves, and twelve to grow. 
A hug makes you feel good. The skin is the biggest organ we have and it needs a lot of love. A hug can cover an extensive part of the skin and provides the massage you need. It is also a way to communicate. It can convey messages for which you have no words. We can always resort to the universal language of hugs.
 
The Power of Hugs
Hugging achieves many things that you might never have imagined. For example:

• It feels good
• It dissolves solitude
• It defeats fear
• It opens the door to sensations
• It improves self-esteem (wow, he or she wants to hug me!)
• It encourages altruism (I can't believe it, but I want to hug that person)
• It delays aging (those who hug age more slowly)
• It helps reduce appetite (we eat less when we are nourished with hugs and when our arms are wrapped around others)

More benefits from hugs:

• It is environmentally friendly (it does not damage the environment)
• It preserves energy
• It is portable and requires no additional machinery
• It does not require a special place to do it (an adequate place to hug)
• In any place such as a conference room, a church or a football field
• It makes happy days even happier
• It gives us a sense of belonging
• It fills the void in our lives
• It is still effective even after the hugging has finished
• It strengthens and increases our ability to share
• It harmonizes the hearts of friends

Hugging creates some form of addiction to tenderness, to altruism, to happiness...

Just as laughter, it is highly contagious! Whatever your hug may be, let it always come from the heart, not from the mind.

Come up with new ways of hugging.
Give your hugs interesting or funny names.
Become a full-time "hug therapist."
Be always ready to offer a hug to someone.
Observe the other person and always be careful of his or her personal space.
Do not try to impose your vision or philosophy on others.
A hug does and says very much.



Hug your friend, your loved one, your kids, your parents, your pet...